A proxy marriage is when two people are married, but one or both of them is not actually present for the marriage ceremony. It’s a completely legal process, when done correctly, and lets people separated by distance still marry one another. For example, imagine that Sarah and Ben want to get married, but Ben is in the military and stationed in Afghanistan. Ordinarily, they would not be able to marry because they couldn’t both be in the same place for the ceremony until Ben returns from war. But with a proxy marriage, the two of them can be legally married, even though neither was in Montana for the marriage ceremony.
There are two types of proxy marriage: a single proxy marriage and a double proxy marriage. Like the names suggest, the difference between the two depends on whether both the bride and groom are absent, or just one of them is. In a single proxy marriage, one of the future spouses is present at the marriage ceremony and a third party stands in for the other. This is called a single proxy because there is only one proxy involved: the third party filling in. In a double proxy ceremony, both the bride and the groom are elsewhere and both have stand-ins. In this case there are two proxies in the ceremony so it is called a double proxy marriage.
Currently, Montana is the only State in the U.S. to allow for double proxy marriages, and it only does so under certain circumstances. To be eligible for a double proxy marriage in Montana, one of the people getting married must either be a resident of Montana or an active duty member of the armed forces. If you are a resident of Montana, you do not need to be on active duty. If you are on active duty, you do not need to be a resident of Montana. And, unfortunately, if neither you nor your future spouse is a resident of Montana or an active duty member of the armed forces, you are not eligible for a Montana double proxy marriage.
Other states offer single proxy marriages for non-residents. While less convenient, if is the only way you can be married, it’s often worth the extra work. There are several organizations that will help you arrange a single proxy marriage in their state and work with you to schedule the details. This scenario only works if one of you is able to travel. Of course it would also work if you were both able to travel, but in that case why not just travel to see one another and get married in person?
Over the years, a number of great businesses have come along to help people looking to obtain a single or double proxy marriage. Unfortunately, just like anything else, there are some bad eggs as well. Before sending your money to one of these organizations, make sure to do your homework first. A Montana Double Proxy Marriage requires that an attorney be involved. Find out who the attorney is. Find out if you can speak with him or her. Find out whether the company offers any other services, or whether they specialize in proxy marriages. It may seem like a hassle now, but if it saves you from getting scammed it will definitely be worth it.